While relationship deal-breakers are highly individual cheating is a common turn-off but not to all.
Businesswoman Sarah Kabu has come out to defend cheating partners saying according to her, this is not a deal breaker.
The mother of two and wife of Bonfire Adventures CEO Simon Kabu says infidelity is not enough reason to call it quits, but that’s just her.
“Cheating should not be the reason we leave men or worry about our husbands. Let’s focus on bigger issues. When you become unbothered, that’s when they start to worry about you. They want to see us praying and checking on them. Let men be who they were created to be. Hata sisi tucheze chini kidogo hata sisi we cannot continue chasing them all the time.”
“Sometimes I see some women worshipping men…As much as he’s your husband, don’t make him your God… Sometimes when you let go they will start asking questions,” she said.
However, most netizens dismissed her as a pick-me arguing that cheating is non-negotiable.
In most cases, thou, signs of infidelity are often subtle but noticeable in hindsight. While many people overlook or dismiss these signs, there are reasons why they do so. The fear of confronting the betrayal and the comfort of the status quo often prevent us from acknowledging cheating. This can include rationalizing suspicious behaviour or convincing oneself it’s “all in their head.”
Experts recommend trusting your instincts and paying attention to physical, emotional, and mental cues when something feels off. Life experience helps refine this intuition, allowing you to recognize the signs early.
Subtle Signs of Cheating You Might Be Ignoring
- Sudden changes in sexual behaviour or intimacy, like one partner suddenly becoming distant after time apart.
- A partner being overly protective of their phone, changing passcodes, or acting paranoid when you try to access it.
- Accusations of cheating often used to deflect attention away from the accuser’s own infidelity.
- Overcompensating with gifts or affection, which may be a way to cover up guilt.
- Associating with people who condone or encourage cheating, indicating a disregard for boundaries.
- Avoiding public acknowledgment of the relationship on social media, especially when they post about friends or other people instead.
- Emotional distance or secretive behavior when interacting with certain friends or acquaintances.
These signs, though sometimes dismissed, are often red flags that could help avoid further heartache if noticed early. The key is to trust your gut and pay attention to how your body and mind react to suspicious or uncomfortable situations.
